There is no right way,
There is no wrong way.
No parent loves their children more, or less than another.
Each family has different values, resources, priorities, sizes of family, etc.
What works for you, works for you. What works for someone else, works for them.
When you get up in the morning, as long as you can look yourself in the face in the mirror, and not turn your head away in shame, then you are okay.