Tonight, for the first time, I am taking Pint, who will turn 11 in August to the nearest decent ALA TEEN meeting.
Perhaps there she will find the peace and strength she needs to realize she is not capable, nor should she try, to manage her mother's bad choices, addiction and manipulation.
After a bit, say a year or so, I will have her little sister, Half Pint start going with her. Since she is just ready to turn 8, she's a bit young, but is being subjected to Mom's manipulations and is reacting to them in a negative manner.
Pint found out about Mom's arrest. It sort of codified things for her. Also, I believe, it made me NOT the bad guy "as in you stole me away from my mommy for no good reason....(which is the bullshit her mother is feeding them of course)"
I will let you know how this works out for her. The lady that answered the phone said this is a really good meeting and as it is held at a place where they have a program for recovering heroin addicts who actually LIVE there with their children...and it is those children who will be attending the meetings, I think it could be a positive.
BTW, Calamity had the option of going into that program. She turned it down (free brand new apartments, with your children living with you, no men allowed, two year program, regular piss tests, regular mandatory mental health counseling, free educational opportunities at local community college, 10 PM curfew, free child care..free medical care, free job training and job placement assistance)
and yeah, Calamity turned it down. Amazing ain't it?
All these programs out there for addicts...and they don't bother. Wonder why I don't care whether or not an addict gets treatment? Because they don't WANT treatment. And when they DO want treatment, THEY find it for themselves.