Even after recovery, whatever form recovery takes for your addict, your life will be different.
Your child will be different from the one you raised.
you will be different.
My daughter has been on methadone for 4 1/2 years now. Does she use on top of it? Probably.
She doesn't think very well. She gets on my nerves pretty bad. Methadone affects your hearing, and so she is very loud!
She still blames everyone else but herself for her addiction. We just let it go.
She doesn't remember most of what she did.
she lies to herself about what the past was like.
WE all, including the kids, just kind of roll our eyes at things she says when she is over. Highly inappropriate things, stupid things, just plain wrong things.
We look the other way when she nods off and then take her home.
We don't bother getting angry anymore. It's just not worth it.
When she has a crises, we stay out of it.
We don't really share much of what we are doing with her.
Her sisters and brothers don't give her their cell numbers.
We don't celebrate her recovery, it is hers to deal with.
We mostly just tolerate her.
She's not the same kid I raised, she's not the same big sister they grew up loving. She's not the kind, considerate daughter we had.
She's just this sort of relative, that is way weird and only comes over once in awhile.
that's sad, but it's also true. That's what heroin did. That's what she did. And that's the way we reacted.